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The Intersection of Grief, Joy, and Gratitude
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The Intersection of Grief, Joy, and Gratitude

Grief is unpredictable during the holidays. One moment, you can feel okay, and the next, a familiar scent, a holiday song, or a family tradition can open the floodgates of memory and longing.

In the therapy room, I often describe grief as love with nowhere to go—a form of attachment energy that continues to reach for connection. And that’s exactly what it feels like for me now. My mother’s absence carries the quiet echo of her love, still shaping the contours of my life in subtle, everyday ways. Allowing myself to feel that ache, rather than fight it, has become an act of self-compassion.

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Intimate Partner Violence Month
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Intimate Partner Violence Month

Domestic violence can often look like physical violence involving the use of physical force in an attempt to hurt your partner; sexual violence involving the force, manipulation, or coercion to engage in sexual activities when a partner cannot or will not consent; stalking or an unwanted continued amount of aggressive attention, unwanted contact, or threats towards the target or their loved ones; and psychological aggression involving emotional abuse intended to harm the victim. There are many other forms of domestic violence that can be recognized include financial abuse, religious abuse, lateral abuse, and legal abuse; the commonality of the abuse is one person’s intent to harm someone. 

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The Unique Language of ADHD
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The Unique Language of ADHD

Take this example; We are having a conversation about your favorite fruit. You swear by honeycrisp apples, but I say cotton candy grapes are the best. Naturally, we debate with no real goal of convincing the other to change, just that we are right and they are wrong. However, halfway through our conversation about fruit, I start talking about how good the movie “IT” is, and that you should totally watch it. Hm, one moment we were on grapes, now we’re on horror movies. To your average person, these things have absolutely nothing in common and I just randomly changed the subject. But to the ADHDer, this transition makes perfect sense. 

Let me explain.

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National Bullying Prevention Month: The Mental Health Connection
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National Bullying Prevention Month: The Mental Health Connection

October is recognized as National Bullying Prevention Month, an opportunity to raise awareness about the pervasive and lasting impact of bullying on mental health across the lifespan. Bullying is not a harmless rite of passage—it is a significant public health concern that can contribute to both immediate and long-term psychological distress.

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Feeling your Feelings: What does that even mean?!
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Feeling your Feelings: What does that even mean?!

Many of us know how we are feeling. We learn emotional vocabulary from a very young age. However, it can be confusing when you are starting therapy and you have a therapist ask–where or how are you feeling that emotion? What does that even mean!?

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You Don’t Have to Be Religious to Be Spiritual
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You Don’t Have to Be Religious to Be Spiritual

“I grew up in church, but I don’t go anymore... and I feel lost.”
“I’m spiritual, but, I’m simply not religious but believe in a higher power.”
“I want a relationship with God, but I don’t see myself in the way it’s taught.”

Redefining What Spirituality Means

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Trust and Therapy: An Essential Balance
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Trust and Therapy: An Essential Balance

The word “Therapy” most likely creates a certain mental image for you. Often we think of the older man with a long, white beard, rounded glasses, and a suit vest. Then there's the old saying, “Tell me how that makes you feel.” While not all therapists look like that image (in fact, most of us try to avoid it), and we are generally more creative with asking about your emotions, these ideas of therapy have made it into the mainstream. However, one huge part of clinical mental health that hasn’t entered pop-psych is session rapport. Or put another way, trust in your therapist. 

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Summer Structure & Managing Behavior
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Summer Structure & Managing Behavior

Summer break offers children a break from the stresses of school. However, the absence of school’s daily structure can lead to irregular routines, disrupted sleep schedules, excessive screen time, and increased negative behaviors. While summer should be a time for relaxation and fun, maintaining some level of structure is essential for children's well-being and development. The key is finding age-appropriate balance that offers freedom and flexibility without abandoning routine entirely.

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It’s Sanctuary
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It’s Sanctuary

In 2025, SCG will celebrate it’s 60th anniversary. That means that for 6 decades this organization has been asking the “why question,” and constantly adjusting to meet the needs of those hurting. After a 35-year career in the insurance industry, I made a change to work in this field because I asked a why question and God showed me how many people are hurting in our communities. At SCG we want to put the “boots” on the road with those hurting, walking the path with them no matter how hard or easy.

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April Fools
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April Fools

As my mind begins to run through the pranks I’ve personally fallen victim to, I’m reminded of a bitter truth- April Fools Day is coming up.. I remain on edge all day because of my theatrical responses, think Nathan Lane in “The Birdcage”, that provide pranksters with the response they crave the most. I timidly check around corners and behind doors of empty rooms, accept every gesture of kindness with suspicion such as “what if this doughnut isn’t filled with delicious Bavarian cream but toothpaste?” On April 1st all I see is a big target on my back that signals to others I am free to tric, and I mentally prepare myself for the jump scare or prank that is inevitable. The irony of this tension is that I fall victim to tricks every day of the year; we all do. Instead of an outsider pranking us, as is tradition on the first of April, it is our minds that prank us every day. Inaccurate thoughts, or cognitive distortions, are thoughts that lead to negative thought patterns and emotional distress. Most of us experience these distortions daily and they can stem from a variety of reasons such as anxiety, insecurity, trauma, or more.

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If It’s From the Neck Up
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If It’s From the Neck Up

When you’re sick, if it’s from the neck down, people will tell you to seek treatment, see a doctor, follow the doctor’s orders, take your medicine, take care of yourself, use every medical resource to get well. If it’s just skin deep, see a dermatologist. For heart trouble, a cardiologist. For coughing and wheezing, a pulmonologist....

If it’s from the neck up, however, when you’re feeling anxious, afraid, insecure, sad, stressed, depressed, lonely, discouraged, confused or overwhelmed, you might receive a different message: “suck it up,” “shake it off,” “get over it,” “put some dirt on it and move on,” “don’t worry about it,” “put it out of your mind,” “stop feeling sorry for yourself,” “don’t be a crybaby,” “stop your whining.”....

This begs the question, if suffering from the neck up makes us weak, does that mean some the greatest heroes in the history of salvation were just weak?

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Same Mission, New Year
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Same Mission, New Year

As we start a new year, let’s review how SCG functions and why it's here. We are deeply committed to serving the community by providing accessible and affordable mental health care. With a mission centered on bridging the gap in care, SCG strives to ensure that individuals and families receive the support they need to navigate life’s challenges.

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Build A Future
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Build A Future

Better lives don’t just happen; they are developed with effort and intent.  Meet the new year with your desire to conquer old problems.  Arise on January 1 with the determination to increase your level of joy.  Put the hope for a better marriage into action.  Work on increasing your level of love and compassion.  Decide you will finally put old fears in their place with striving toward confidence.

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Warm Holiday Greetings
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Warm Holiday Greetings

From all of us at Sanctuary Counseling Group, we wish you a Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and a New Year filled with hope and possibility.

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It’s The Most Wonderful Time of the Year… Or is It?
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It’s The Most Wonderful Time of the Year… Or is It?

If we are honest with ourselves, we’ve all experienced this “and moment” at one time or another during the holiday season. We often encounter unexpected curveballs and overwhelming realities that leave us questioning if this is truly the most wonderful time of the year.

So, for those who are unsure about, or maybe even dreading the holiday season… here are three coping strategies to help you prepare mentally for the holidays….

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ADHD and the Modern School System
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ADHD and the Modern School System

ADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder, is a condition many have heard of, but few truly understand. Even those diagnosed sometimes struggle to fully grasp how far such a condition changes everyday functioning. Now, despite the word Disorder, ADHD only describes a deviation from the norm rather than a profound dysfunction. At least in most cases.

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Navigating Pregnancy and Infant Loss: Finding Empowerment, Community, and Hope
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Navigating Pregnancy and Infant Loss: Finding Empowerment, Community, and Hope

October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, a time dedicated to honoring the experiences of parents who have endured the heartbreak of losing a child. This loss can feel isolating and overwhelming, but it’s important to remember that you are not alone in your grief. As devastating as this experience is, there are paths toward healing that can bring empowerment, community, and hope.

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October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month
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October is National Breast Cancer Awareness Month

Here at Sanctuary we welcome the opportunity to come alongside those facing the challenges of health concerns including cancer, its treatment and survival, as well as caregivers of patients and those who grieve the loss of loved ones

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ADHD Awareness Month
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ADHD Awareness Month

ADHD can significantly impact daily functioning, relationships, and academic performance. It is important to recognize that ADHD is not simply a childhood disorder; many individuals carry these symptoms into adulthood and face challenges in maintaining focus, organizing tasks, managing time, and regulating emotions.

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Autism and Sensory Overload, A Silent Struggle
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Autism and Sensory Overload, A Silent Struggle

The 5 human senses of smell, taste, touch, sight, and hearing are essential to our understanding of the world around us. That day at the grocery store reminded me of how powerful these senses can be. Now I am not particularly sensitive to smells, however many individuals on the autistic spectrum are. An inconvenient experience like mine could have been a deeply troubling one for someone with scent sensitivity.

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